Embrace 2021 Issue 5 by Embrace

Aromatherapy

The Power of Quiet

Your Savings Plan

Sophrology

Discover Your Purpose

Time Management

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Learn 32 Food for thought – Blueberries 36 Discover your Purpose 40 In Plain View – Art Galleries 42 Puzzles

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Letter from the Editor Some of us just love the cold air that surrounds us during winter. Some love the hot summery warming rays of the golden sun. But for me it’s the in between seasons, those changing seasons: Autumn glorious in its parade of colours and Spring for all its vitality, bursting with new growth. Spring is reinvigorating. It woes us out of our wintery stasis to an enchanting harmony between vibrancy and energy. It is a time when the weather is gentle, not too hot and not too cold. It is a time when we can get out and enjoy the fresh air, be active and renew out fitness regime, strengthen our wellbeing and rekindle friendships. And we can anticipate the regeneration of nature and its splendid regrowth, buds bursting through the branches, all blossoming buds. Spring with all of its freshness and newness, life and growth. It is a time I take to enjoy our natural environment sometimes in solitude, to reflect in tranquil repose, to meditate on what my life has become, and to appreciate the strength and wisdom of being quiet. I have become aware of the Quiet Movement, and as one who came from a large extended family quiet was never on the agenda. While not an extravert nor an introvert I am now profoundly conscious and intrigued by the Power of Quiet. Being Quiet is such an enabler of knowledge and wisdom, and a skill worthy of developing.

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While, being purposefully quiet stimulates the awareness of external environment Sophrology, brings balance to our inner being. And in a world of urgency and immediacy, were everything is on demand and so, so, so connected, it is wonderful, experientially, to find that tranquillity within yourself through relaxation therapy. Finally, to slow down, take it easy, and relax into being. And so, as we embrace Spring, and anticipate the reduction of lockdowns we bring you stories and articles, that to find new friends, to enjoy new relationships, to explore whether opposites really do attract, to embrace new hobbies and pastimes. We bring you articles to discover your purpose, to revitalise this Spring. And so, I welcome you to read our fifth issue for 2021. Embrace!

Jacqueline Hodges

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Taking care of your body for optimal functioning.

Bounce When women take care of their health, they become their best friend. Maya Angelou

Bringing Your Mind and Body in Sync

Sophrology in Practice

ith the world in chaos – whether from global warming or a global pandemic, we may not be as certain as we used to be. Life may not be a smooth and well-planned journey as we thought it would be, but one thing we can be certain of is that it will change. No moment is the same as the one before. For better or for worse, this time will change. Like the time, we are constantly changing, evolving at our own pace. Some changes are integral to our growth while some, the unexpected ones, come to test our patience, our ability to adapt, survive, and thrive. Embracing these changes, no matter how crucial or trivial, is the real challenge we must overcome to attain tranquillity in life. While physical changes may be easier or even quicker to embrace, the emotional toll they take on us may last for a long period. In such times, we must remember and respect the intimate connection that is shared by our mind and body. When a change occurs in your life, bring awareness to your coping strategy. Do you lose your balance or accept it as it comes? Are you mindful of how it is impacting your emotions and your spirit?

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Awareness, acceptance, and adaptation make up the key to ride through any wave of change in your life. Whilst we are unaware of how this change may impact our future, it is essential for our inner peace to be aware of what is happening in the present. Wasting our time and energy in worrying about the future or ruminating the past may cause anxiety, stress, and even depression, but simply being aware and grateful of the present can restore our focus and rejuvenate our mind, body, and soul. Fighting and resisting a change may be turbulent for our emotional, mental, and physical health. Accepting it gives you the courage you need to move on happily in your life. Acceptance does not mean that you must stay in the same place or give up on striving for a better life. It is about accepting the fact that everything is temporary and being hopeful that better things are on their way. When practicing acceptance, there is no judgment or complaints. There is only positivity and a peace of mind that reminds you that everything will be alright. Time never stops. Life goes on, whether we move with it or not. Whilst we may feel that we are stuck in a situation, our body does not stop aging. In such situation, we must remember the intimate connection our mind and body share with each other and bring our mind in sync with our body. To do this, we must learn to adapt. Whether it means realigning our mindset or readjusting a few lifestyle habits, adaptation allows us to move on with life; it lets our mind progress with the body over time.

“Change is the only constant.” – Heraclitus

Bringing Our Mind and Body in Sync Some people find exercise helps them regain their mind-body balance, while for some it may be yoga and meditation. However, such practices may not come easy for everyone. For those, there is another practice that combines the eastern mindfulness techniques with the western therapies, resulting in higher self- awareness, acceptance through inner harmony, and finally, personal transformation – adaptation. Rooted in the principles of Yoga, Meditation, and Zen, Sophrology is a self-help practice that realigns our mind-body connection. In its literal meaning, it is regarded as the “study of conscious harmony”, a practice that calms the mind and use its power to relax the body. Created in Spain during the 1960’s by Alfonso Caycedo, a professor in neuropsychology, Sophrology has been called “learning to live” and is widely practiced in the continental Europe. Based on its foundational principles of awareness, breathing, posture, movement, visualisation, and affirmation, Sophrology involves simple and easy 12-level techniques such as bringing awareness to our current state, deep breaths, and neck rotations, that can seamlessly fit into our busy schedule. As these practices help relieve stress and muscle tension, it is especially effective for those suffering from pain, anxiety, anger, and sleep deprivation. Whilst sophrology works best as a guided experience, there are some techniques that can be practiced every day at home to begin this journey.

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Body Scan

Stand straight or lie down on the smooth surface and bring awareness to each part of your body. Notice any part where you may be holding tension or tightness - maybe your tongue is pressing too firmly against your teeth or maybe you are clenching your fist too tight. Be aware of any slightest of tension in your body and then focus on releasing it. Take a deep breath and through that inhalation, tighten your muscles, hold it for 2-3 seconds, and exhale it as a deep sigh. With that exhalation, envision your tension being released out of your body. Repeat this 2-4 times at once.

Bringing Awareness to your Breathing

When you are breathing in and out, bring awareness to where you are breathing from – is it your chest or abdomen? You may place one hand on your chest and one on your belly to notice the rise and fall with each breath. Try to breath in from your abdomen and hold the breath in your chest. Become aware of how the air enters through your nostrils and rises your belly. When breathing out, engage your whole body in this process. Gradually, let your exhale be longer than your inhale. When you become aware of your body while breathing, you recentre your focus and gain a feeling of instant calm in your mind.

“Change is in the air, as old patterns fall away and new energies are emerging. Consciously release what needs to be released, and welcome with a full embrace the newness you’ve prayed for and so richly deserve.”

- Marianne Williamson

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Visualising Serenity

This may particularly appeal to those following travel restrictions. Begin by closing your eyes and picture your favourite place on earth or your dream destination or even a place that may not truly exist but constitutes your idea of ‘heaven’. You may even think of an event that will bring you peace and happiness – perhaps meeting a loved one again or winning a new client. Once your mental picture looks perfect to you, bring awareness to all your senses, and allow your mind to observe what your senses our feeling. How does the air of that place feel, smell, touch your skin? Do you hear music or the sound of waves or are birds chirping? How does that make your body feel? Again, using the power of your mind to become aware of your body is the key to bringing them in sync.

Simple Physical Exercises

Simple body movements like tilting your head left and right or moving your shoulders up and down are also considered effective in releasing tension from your body and bringing your mind to a state of calm. Let sophrology allow you to be present in the absence of doing. Remember that consistency is the extremely important. No matter what the situation is, train yourself to use these simple techniques and let your mind and body recentre. Remind yourself that “this too shall pass”.

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Revitalise It’s Spring No wonder they have that old saying it will put a spring in your step! Spring is certainly uplifting, bringing joy and new life. So, it’s not surprizing if you are feeling energised, awakened, and alive. Spring is a season that invites you to look around you, see its glorious beauty, and to inspired to healthy, natural living. The cold frosty wintery days are gone and it is so much easier to be motivated to move. But let’s not take it too fast. You need to ease into this newness, and plan your revitalisation.

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“Spring is the time of plans and projects.” - Leo Tolstoy

There is nothing wrong with being impulsive, surprising yourself, celebrating the moment, and embracing the joy of being. But if you truly want to revitalise and stay fit and healthy, you need to start with a plan. Plan for your health and fitness, schedule your exercise, detox cleansing and diet. According to traditional medicine, Spring is the best time to detox, and get ready for an active Summer.

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If you are not really feeling that Spring in your step, then it is time to revitalise you. Yes You! Your body and mind are truly your most important treasures. So staying fit and healthy is not just a physical intention it is a whole mindset and way of being. Treat it as a gift to yourself, a daily ritual that you perform to be the best you. Exploring this revitalisation means making time in your day for you. It is not a selfish journey, it is one that brings the best of you for you and your loved ones. If you are not sure how to start, we’ve made a list of five ways to revitalise you.

Find your health zone, and set yourself up for health and longevity

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Find your harmony, think about your stresses and how to remove them

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Find your inner self, make time to connect with yourself

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Find your tranquil spot, it might be a place or a time of day

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Find your enjoyment, seek that which gives your pleasure

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Find your motivation, what are your goals

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Find your humility, make time for others in your life

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Find your optimum, what do you really want to achieve

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Find your vitality, what bring you happiness and make you feel alive

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Natural Sunlight! There’s nothing like feeling the sunrays shining down on a bright clear day. The sunlight boosts your serotonin and those clear blue skies provide an awesome lift and will definitely be beckoning you to the outdoors. Take a short brisk walk around the park. If you enjoy your coffee alfresco, walk a little further and treat it as a reward. Remember to show some skin to the sun to capture the vitamin D. It is best to catch the sunlight in the morning to really capture that vitamin D.

Get Moving! Regular exercise is a powerful way to maintain a healthy body and mind, especially if you are able to exercise outside in the natural daylight. Regular exercise is a great way to boost all those feel-good brain chemicals. Find exercises that are continuous and rhythmic and create a feeling of flow. You might try walking, tai chi, yoga, swimming or dancing. Exercise can also help to improve your sleep and boost your self-esteem. Try to get in at least 30 minutes of activity each day. Join a group in the park, or take your four legged friend for a brisk walk. You will soon feel revitalised, glow with inner health, and make connection with others as well.

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Home Refresh! Home sweet Home! An untidy home can be overwhelming. The pleasure of relaxation when you put your foot over the threshold, can only come when your home is clean and tidy. So, now Spring is here it is time to pack away the reminders of Winter; the woolly jumpers, the cosy blankets, and the heavy doonas. You don’t need to channel your inner Marie Condo and suddenly throw out everything you haven’t used this year. But you can start by arranging the wardrobes and drawers, and throwing away anything that is tattered and overworn that can’t be upcycled, or recycled. Allow some empty space. Don’t be afraid to lease empty space. It can be relaxing and refreshing.

Alone Time! There is nothing selfish in having some me time! We all need to relax, find that tranquil place, and connect with ourselves. When we make time for ourselves, we allow ourselves to be refreshed, and bring a new energy to our friends and family. You might find this in a book, in a craft, in meditation, in locking yourself away from the world while you take a bath. Dissociate from technology, no phones, no games, no kindle, no television, and no backup radios. Spend the time to ponder your being, your wellness, your vitality, and your place in the world.

Phone a Friend!! Life was not meant to be lived alone. We are surrounded by beautiful people, friends, family, and colleagues. If you are feeling the need to get out and about call your friends or colleagues and make a date to do enjoy the companionship. You could be going for a brisk walk, visiting the flower show, set out on a cross country challenge, or organise a back to the bush weekend retreat and commune with nature. Whatever you are plan to do, get moving with friends. It is sure to make you revitalised!

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Exercise to Bounce Take 5 minutes to think about your health, fitness and wellbeing. When ready, jot down some points for your personal journey. Are you happy with where you are? We all have the ability to bounce. Complete this plan to help you grow your healthy self.

What do I want to achieve?

How will I achieve these goals?

When do I want to achieve these goals?

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Understanding your feelings and how to handle your emotions to grow and learn from experiences.

Care If your compassion does not include yourself, it is incomplete. Jack Kornfield

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Introverts & The Power of Quiet “I imagine what it must be like to stay hidden, disappear in the dusky nothing and stay still in the night. It’s not sadness, though it may sound like it. I’m thinking about people and trees and how I wish I could be silent more, be more tree than anything else, less clumsy and loud, less crow, more cool white pine, and how it’s hard not to always want something else, not just to let the savage grass grow.”

- Ada Limon

re you an introvert or an extrovert? Do you wear loud bright colours or do you simply blend in? Do you crave the interaction with others or are you happy to sit alone in your own space? Do you like to fill the page with text or do you leave some white space for your reader? Do you speak simply for the pleasure of filling the silence or do you sit, and watch, and listen, and observe, and absorb everything, in silence.

We often associate power with assertion, that speaker who captures the audiences’ attention, or a friend who dominates the conversation. But introverts hold a passive persuasion. If you resonate as being one of the quieter personality types, you have a power that the rest, those louder more outspoken types are yet to harness. You hold the key to the power of quietness. Why is being quiet a power? Being quiet, allows you to pay more attention to what is happening around you, you can actively listen, observe what others are doing, hone in on the important facts, and gain more knowledge and information than someone who is speaking without observing. As an introvert you are more likely to focus attention directly on a few specific tasks, while your friend an extrovert has capacity to focus broadly on more tasks. Susan Cain in her book “Quiet: The Power of Introverts in a World That Can’t Stop Talking” suggests extroverts are more likely to focus on what’s happening around them, seeing “what is” while their introverted peers are asking “what if.” This is a powerful thought process and facilitates the foundations of innovation and change.

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People talking without speaking

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People hearing without listening.

– Paul Simon (from Sounds of Silence)

Being quiet or remaining silent can have an impact on others and create a sense of security and comfort. If you use positive body language, a smile and open arms, then your non-verbal ques signal your positive attitude to others. If you as an introvert convey a positive attitude, people tend to respond more openly and freely. This may seem a little overwhelming to you, so stop the person when you are feeling uncomfortable, and ask them to slow down and explain themselves in a calm and quiet manner. This will allow you both to communicate more confidently and clearly with each other, and will work particularly with those who may be a little more extrovert than you.

While the consequences of silence used with negative body language may seem extreme and undesirable, there may be times when negative body language is appropriate. For example your facial expression may show anger towards a colleague but you remain silent because you wish to choose your words wisely. In this instance, it might be better to excuse yourself or ask your colleague to excuse themselves and you will speak with them a later when you have composed yourself and know what you wish to say.

Silence like power can have a dark side. If you use negative body language, a frown, and arms folded then your non-verbal ques signal to others your negative attitude. When your silence is conveyed with a negative attitude, people respond more analytically. Your silence can also convey feelings intimidation, punishment, and judgement. It can also be a form of abuse, threatening harm or withholding friendship or information.

Whether you are an introvert or an extrovert isn’t an archetypal polar persuasion. It is more a continuous scale on the introversionextroversion spectrum. The extremes being highly introvert and highly extrovert. Most of us tend towards ambiversion, exhibiting behaviours of both introversion and extroversion depending on the situation and the people around us.

Introvert or Extrovert?

Science has also now shown that a leaning towards introversion is genetic. People who are introverts respond differently to the dopamine in the brain. Extroverts feel satisfaction form social interactions because of this chemical, whilst introverts feel overstimulated. Embrace | 25

Why Introverts win at Quiet Author, Megumi Miki lists 17 quiet superpowers in your book Quietly Powerful. Here’s five from her list. 1. Access calm: some quiet people can be perceived as calm, even if they are stressing on the inside. 2. Listen, observe and sense: By being quiet and present you can pick up so much of what is happening around you. 3. Connect and create: deep listening and reflection allows you to make sense of ideas that others may not. 4. Humble and curious: By valuing others and thinking of yourself less, you relate to people with respect. 5. Wise questioning: Wise questions only emerge through great listening and curiousity. 6. Don’t worry if you lean more towards extroversion, being quiet is a skill that can be learned. It takes time to become effectively quiet and requires practice. But over time you can harness this power.

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Being Quiet is not Being Silent We have used the words quiet and silent interchangeably. But being quiet is not being silent. Being quiet is the intentional act of not speaking. It has an outward focus and presence. Being silent is the intentional act of becoming aware of your inner self. It has an inward focus but can either have an inward or an outward presence. Silence allows you to focus in on your feelings and emotions. Quiet allows you to focus on the world around you.

Finding the Balance Remember that old expression “You have to take the good with the bad.” It once seemed folkloric. Well, it seems there is actually scientific support that gives it new meaning. Research by Professors Jonathan M. Adler and Hal E. Hershfield suggests that it is the mix of feelings that may help us to understand bad experiencers. Adler and Hershfield suggest “taking the good and the bad together may detoxify the bad experiences, allowing you to make meaning out of them in a way that supports psychological well-being,”

“Your emotions make you human. Even the unpleasant ones have a purpose. Don’t lock them away. If you ignore them, they just get louder and angrier.”

- Sabaa Tahir

So, rather than always leaning towards your introversion, try expressing a little extroversion as well, aim for balance and accept that both introverts and extroverts have their place in society. If you are feeling overwhelmed by the thought of extroversion talk to someone, write a journal note, or try some mindfulness exercises.

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Aromatherapy Sensing Vitality

Have you ever been transformed by an aroma, just known that this fragrance complements you? You may have sipped herbal tea that transferred its fragrance as you drank. You may have brushed against the leaves of a lemon tree or smelt the freshness of a pine needle. You may have bent to smell a rose or even had a vaporiser with eucalyptus oil to relieve a cold. Then you have responded to the fragrance of a plant oil as it released an aromatic compound. Aromatherapy is a complementary therapy that uses aromatic plant oils and essential oils for health and wellbeing. An aromatherapist uses the aromas and chemical constituents to promote psychological and physiological reactions in different people in order to relieve them from the stresses of daily life. All in order to help you relax, restore, and revitalise. 28 | Embrace

The Science and Art of Aromatherapy This therapy is both an art and a science and is gaining support in the scientific and medicinal worlds. Given the art or science debate, you might be surprised to learn this therapy is ancient. It was practiced by the Egyptians, the Greeks, the Chinese and the Persians. Even Hippocrates the father of medicine claimed the way to health was through aromatic baths and massage. Scientific support is growing, although far from conclusive. Dr Brent Bauer of the Mayo Clinic, says that some studies have shown that aromatherapy may offer therapeutic health benefits, in: • • • • •

Relieving anxiety and depression; Relieving headaches; Improving sleep; Improving the quality of life for people with dementia; Relieving pain

While anecdotal evidence is positive, further research is needed before this holistic therapy can truly claim its place as a science. As a holistic art form, health treatments require knowledge and skill as some oils are toxic. Always seek the advice of your doctor and a competent professional practitioner, who has the knowledge of the essential oils and the skills in the appropriate methods.

Aromatherapy at home A good way to use essential oils is in a vaporiser or steam bath. The aromatics are diffused in water. When using as a massage treatment, the essential oil may be added to cold-pressed vegetable oils. If you don’t have a diffuser or vaporiser, try a morning spa by sprinkling a few of drops of oil on your shower floor or add to your bath. This will give you a morning boost you need. If you work from home, and need an invigorating life, diffuse a few drops in an oil burner while you work or study. Popular aromatic oils We have made a list of some of the popular essential oils. Try a combination to relax, reset, and revitalise. Lavender – for better sleep headaches, insomnia, burns, aches and pains Peppermint – to reduce fatigue digestive disorders, memory, chocolate cravings Rosemary – to boost energy muscular pains, mental stimulant, fatigue Orange – to reduce anxiety Depression, post-traumatic stress disorder Cinnamon – to boost focus Concentration, alertness Lemon – to improve mood Positivity, anxiety, depression Eucalyptus – to improve congestion Sniffling, muscus membranes, mental clarity, headaches Teat Tree – respiratory problems, antifungal, antibacterial and antiviral Yland Ylang – to relax Calmness, blood pressure, inflammation Grapefruit – to relax Balance, moods, blood pressure

We are all different and your wellbeing and health will be unique to you. If you wish to find the perfect bespoke blend that will bring you harmony and wellbeing speak with an Aromatherapist. If aromatherapy truly intrigues you, you can always stimulate your brain and memory power by learning more, taking a class, and reading about essential oils.

Essential Care Remember different people will have different reactions to essential oils. So take care before you think of supplementing your own medicine cupboard. Not all oils can be used, some are toxic. Those that are considered safe should never be swallowed. Some oils may burn, irritate your skin, cause allergies, or even cause sun sensitivity. Be cautious of using essential oils on children or if pregnant, or breast-feeding. You should also consult your medical doctor if on medication.

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Exercise to Care Take 5 minutes to think about your heart, feelings and emotions. When ready, jot down some points for your personal journey. Are you happy with where you are? We all have the ability to care. Complete this plan to help you grow your caring self.

What do I want to achieve?

How will I achieve these goals?

When do I want to achieve these goals?

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Actively participating in mindstimulating activities that expand your knowledge.

Learn The capacity to learn is a gift; the ability to learn is a skill; the willingness to learn is a choice. Brian Herbert

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Food for Thought Blueberries Mickayla Hosking

Blueberries! A favourite of most children and a powerful source of nutrition. They are a native plant to North America, but have been adopted to grow in many colder climate areas, including Australia. Blueberries are rich in flavonoids and polyphenols which give them their deep colour. The anthocyanins and polyphenols in blueberry are major functional ingredients for preventive chronic disease. It’s these properties that contribute to the blueberries anti-inflammatory, antioxidant, cardioprotective, and immune enhancing effects. Some suggest that blueberries may even be one of the most functional fruits we have access to. One of the polyphenol groups, called anthocyanins, have even been found to be protective of cancer cell mutation. A review of recent clinical evidence suggests that blueberries, when regularly consumed, reduced risk of cardiovascular disease, type 2 diabetes, improved weight maintenance and neuroprotection. As blueberries contain fibre as well, they are also beneficial in feeding our microbiome to create overall health. Blueberry with abundant anthocyanins can improve vision, is anticancer, antidiabetes, anti-obesity, is preventive against neurodegeneration and macular degeneration as well as osteoporosis, can reduce hyperlipidemia and hypertension, as well as heart disease through various pathways. The anthocyanins and their production with pyruvic acid can slow or even stop the proliferation of cancer cells. The darker the colour of the berry, the more anthocyanins it may have. Blueberry consumption (400 mg daily) can reduce tumor size significantly in mice, which inhibits the proliferation of ovarian cancer.

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These anthocyanins in blueberries have turned out to be super useful! They can prevent fat cells taking up as much glucose, hinting at some anti-obesity actions, and well improving conditions such as fatty liver via the same pathways. Here some supplemental form of blueberries (such as a powder) may be more useful to get a therapeutic effect. Daily consumption of blueberries may even contribute to preventing diseases like macular degeneration, dementia, heptatitis, insulin resistance progressing to type 2 diabetes, and so much more! Why not try it out yourselves? Frozen blueberries have the naturopathic tick of approval as well, so don’t feel pressured to buy fresh. One cup of blueberries is considered one serving, so get munching!

Choc-Blueberry Bark This recipe is so quick and easy! For bonus antioxidant points, grab some super dark chocolate or carob bars. 1 punnet blueberries 450g dark chocolate, chopped 85g silvered almonds, toasted and cooled to room temperature 1/3 cup hazelnuts or pistachios 1. Line a rimmed baking tray with baking paper. Draw a 20cm x 25cm rectangle on the baking paper with a pencil. Then turn the paper over (you should be able to see the outline of the rectangle) 2. Melt chocolate in a microwave oven or over a double boiler until smooth, then use a spatula to spread chocolate on the baking paper up to the edges of the drawn rectangle. Sprinkle blueberries, toasted almonds, and other nuts onto the chocolate. Use fingertips to press toppings gently down into melted chocolate. Cover loosely with plastic wrap and refrigerate for 1 hour. 3. Use a sharp knife to cut bark into 9 squares. Cut each square in half diagonally and serve immediately. Store any uneaten bark in the refrigerator. If you would like to find out more about how herbs can help or nutrition haven’t exercised in a while, you should consult with your doctor, physiotherapist or a podiatrist. Mickayla is a qualified Naturopath. She has completed a Bachelor of Health Science (Naturopathy) from Torrens University and currently runs her own naturopathy clinic. Please seek advice from your health practitioner before beginning new treatment.

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Discover your Purpose “The path to our destination is not always a straight one. We go down the wrong road, we get lost, we turn back. Maybe it doesn’t matter which road we embark on. Maybe what matters is that we embark.” – Barbara Hall It is a truly rewarding experience to know and understand your purpose. But are you one of the many who still feel there is something missing from your life even though you have a great career, a wonderful family, and a friendship circle that you can count on? Knowing your sense of purpose and having a fulfilling life can be increase your sense of wellbeing and even your lifespan. Here we share some tips to discover your purpose, so you can fill that void, and find what it is that is missing from your life.

People You Know

You are the company you keep! Who do you surround yourself with? Think about your family your friends, your colleagues, and any other relationships you have. Are they pulling you down, causing you anger, frustration, anxiety or even depression? Relationships are not always positive, and having some differences can be healthy, but overall your relationships should be uplifting.

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Surround yourself with positive people. Find people who will stimulate you on all levels. You want to feel, passionate, purposeful, and positive. Strengthen your friendship circle by inviting new people in your circle. This doesn’t mean you need to exclude those you know bring you negativity. It means balance the scales with greater positivity. After all, if you have friends or colleagues who are constantly negative, they may need your support. Listen to what others say. When you take the time to hear what others are saying and doing you might realise a great opportunity to discover something about you. While, you may not discover your purpose but by being open to what others say, you will certainly by open to other possibilities that may be the pathway to your purpose

Places You Go

Get out and about! Staying home snuggled up might be fine and cosy on a wet blustery day and when you need some me time. But put away the social apps and the camp fires and think about getting out and about to stay socially and physically connected. There is nothing better than being greet with a warm friendly smile when catching up with friends. Noting ventured nothing gained! Have you ever thought I have never been there or even I would never go there? Sometimes it better to take the risk, expose yourself, and venture somewhere different. You might not like where you go, you may be been right, but you will see something that you would not have seen in your comfort zone. You may feel an intensity of passion or distaste, perhaps even fear. But you may just as equally found a place where you would like to venture again.

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The road less travelled! It is very soothing and easy to stay in your comfort zone but dare to go somewhere different or take a different way. When you venture into unknown territory, everything is different, and you cannot rely on your bearings. You need to observe more, learn more, and question. You will become more aware of your surroundings, and pique your curiosity. You might just see that road leads you to your purpose.

Projects You Do

Get your craft on! Starting a hobby or craft will stimulate the mind and you will learn something about yourself as you progress through the project. Creativity and craft can provide a mindful and mediative pathway that allows you to contemplate your purpose. You may think of ways your project can be used to help others and in doing so, you may find it fulfils your purpose. Find a noble cause! Spending time to help others brings warmth to your heart and soul. Charitable giving combines who you want to help and how you want to help with what you are will to sacrifice. You might decide to donate your time, and your effort, or simply your money. Whichever it is, be involved in your noble cause. It gets you out and about, out of your comfort zone, and into meeting a different group of people. Find your passion! Some people are born with a passion and they focus on developing that passion throughout their life. This becomes their purpose. Most however must travel a life long journey to discover their purpose. By living your life and being social and adventurous you will find what you are passionate about and discover you purpose.

“We all have a purpose in life, and when you find yours you will recognize it.” – Catherine Pulsifer

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In Plain View – Art Galleries Art is the language of self-awareness. Whether you like visual arts, music, theatre, graffiti, or poetry, art has beautified our life since prehistoric times. For the artist, it is a blank canvas to express themselves whereas for the observer it is a land of serenity. It surpasses the societal concepts of race, culture, religion, and sexuality. It brings people together in the toughest of times. It gives a voice to the silent ones, and a sense of calm to the anxious ones. Art is a beautiful language in itself. Interactive art redefines the boundaries between art, artist and audience by inviting the audience to participate in the creation and appreciation of art and transforms traditional galleries into immersive, multi-sensory experiences. So, whether you are in Victoria or in Western Australia or in Tasmania, we have got something for everyone to please their senses with different forms of art. We hope this will inspire you to dive in the artistic culture and ignite a passion for the language of art.

Victoria

New South Wales

The 2021: Spirit of Place Lorne Sculpture Biennale, is a world-class, public sculpture event located in, and inspired by, the heart of the Great Ocean Road. Participating artists will display works responding to themes that explore Lorne’s histories and the beauty of its natural environment. Exhibiting in one of Australia’s most picturesque locations, the Biennale offers an open-air event for all art lovers alike, Be prepared to enhance your experience with Sculpture Plus, a series of arts and performance events.

Attracting more than 25,000 people, illuminARTe Wollondilly is the largest event on Wollondilly’s calendar. With something for all ages, spectators can expect a remarkable cultural experience combined with breathtaking performing arts, local music, market stalls and food vendors. As night falls, the free family event encourages visitors, locals, friends and families to stroll through the picturesque town of Picton taking in the enchanted ambiance as an amazing range of local artworks projected onto landmark buildings to illuminate the historic town.

When: 30 October – 21 November 2021

When: 12-14 November 2021

Where: The Athenaeum Theatre, Melbourne VIC

Where: Wollondilly, NSW

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Western Australia

Kenilworth ArtsFest is a fun art festival, hosting a vast range of exhibitions, competitions and workshops. Special events held throughout the festival, including live musical performances, art competitions (Landscape, Still Life, The Human Form, Animal Life, Contemporary Art and Portraits), art displays and presentations. Kenilworth ArtsFest also runs a vast range of workshops where you can build your skills in your chosen art. The ArtsFest itself starts with a Chinese Brush Strokes workshop by Stephen Cassettari at the Kenilworth Historical Museum. Be prepared to be mesmorised.

The Southern Art and Craft Trail is an initiative of ArtSouthWA, exhibits the visual art and craft created by artists living and working in the southern region of WA. The works range from painting and drawing to felting and sculpture, and everything in between. You will be able to enjoy art exhibitions, open studios, workshops, demonstrations, artist talks and public art displays at 53 venues. Meander through the southern region, discover the work of over 200 artists and explore the multi-layered venues wineries, homes, cafes, shops, district halls and pop-up galleries along the way.

When: 25 September to 4 October 2021

When: 25 September to 10 October 2021

Where: Currumbin Beach, Gold Coast, Queensland.

Where: Various locations in the Southern Region, WA

South Australia Tarnanthi is a platform shedding new light on contemporary Aboriginal and Torres Strait Islander Art from across the country to share important stories. It encourages new beginnings by providing artists with opportunities to create significant new work and to extend their practice. It illuminates the diversity and depth of Aboriginal and Torres Strait Islander art through exhibition, art fair, artist talks, performances and events. When: 15-17 October 2021 Where: Adelaide, SA

Northern Territory

Tasmania

Desert Mob celebrates 30 years of bringing together the art and culture of First Nations artists from across desert country. 32 art centres from Arrernte Country, the Western Desert, Martu Country, Anangu Pitjantjatjara Lands, Ngaanyatjarra Lands, Spinifex Country, the Barkly and Alyawarr Country, will be part of Desert Mob’s 30th Anniversary, maintaining its position as a special gathering in Mparntwe, for artists and audiences to share and experience one of the strongest art movements and expressions of First Nations culture in the world.

The Unconformity festival is shines again. The Unconformity is a contemporary arts festival that explores the paradoxes of Queenstown, a small mining community on lutruwita/ Tasmania’s wild and mountainous West Coast. Much like Rome’s ancient stage for vast public spectacles, Queenstown itself, sitting within a valley ringed by hills and mountains, can be seen as a colosseum where dramas are played out. It you love the contemporary, you will love Unconformity from music, art, theatre, and installation.

When: 10 September – 24 October 2021

When: 15-17 October 2021

Where: Alice Springs, SA

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Puzzles Diagrammar

Clues

Find the intersect for three words.

All words contain some of the same letters. The Central Intersect has been filled for you The other intersects may have 1 or 2 letters The circles may have 1 or 2 letters All sections must contain at least one letter

Cherry, Fuschia, Peach

C Orange, Lemons, Apples

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Falling Petals Unscramble the letters to piece together the flowers and make them whole again.

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Find the word C

The leftover letters form the following word: _____________

Bounce

Empathy

Punnets

Sophrology

Aromatherapy

Extraversion

Quail

Spring

Belong

Family

Quartet

Sustain

Blossoms

Giving

Quiet

Trail

Blueberries

Grow

React

Unties

Care

Introversion

Reflect

Vitality

Citrus

Learn

Relationship

Work

Connect

Macrame

Skill

Eagles

Managing

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Exercise to Learn Take 5 minutes to think about your wisdom, knowledge and intellect. When ready, jot down some points for your personal journey. Are you happy with where you are? We all have the ability to learn. Complete this plan to help you grow your learning self.

What do I want to achieve?

How will I achieve these goals?

When do I want to achieve these goals?

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Building healthy and supportive relationships with others in the community.

Connect People heal from their pain when they have an authentic connection with another human being. Marshall Rosenberg

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The Joy of New Relationships If you find yourself looking for new companions Spring is the perfect time of year to begin new friendships, new relationships, and new romantic connections. But why does a new found relationship bring us such joy? Psychologists call this buzz we feel Limerence or New Relationship Energy. Psychologist Dorothy Tennov first coined the term limerence to explain the feelings of adoration and attachment at the beginning of a new relationship. It is those intrusive thoughts, that longing for reciprocation, acute sensitivity, fear of rejection, and unsettling raw nervousness, when we meet someone we like. We burst with New Relationship Energy, in our joy of discovering more about our new found friend. Anthropologist, Dr Helen Fisher, believes that unless we feel that NRE we may not develop the deep emotional bonds required when starting a new relationship. Its chemistry, literally. Fisher says, it comes down to dopamine and dopamine is

Why spring? Spring causes a revived energy, we go out more, we’ve turned out back on the hibernation of winter. Simply by going out and doing things we are reigniting our memory and expanding our view of the world. We become open to new things, new possibilities and meeting new people. As we venture into new surrounds and unfamiliar places, we actually engage with new people, and amongst these new people is the possibility of forming new relationships.

“In springtime, love is carried on the breeze. Watch out for flying passion and kisses whizzing by your head.” – Emma Racine Defleur

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The Meeting Places Are you stuck for ideas or a little shy about where to go find new friends? Here’s 10 tips to get you started. 1.

Visit the Farmer’s Market

Start a new Hobby

Go for a long walk

Stop of a Coffee

Join a community garden

Start going to the gym

Start training for a marathon

Dine out alfresco

Get to know your neighbours

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Host a pot luck party

Whatever you decide to do, keep doing it. The more you frequent the same places, the more likely you will meet people. Positive Relationships: Building a new relationship will take time. You need to get to know each other, build trust, and find that common ground.

External Relationships: Stay whole and true to yourself be maintaining your other friendships. A healthy relationship is one where you can maintain the balance between your new and old friends.

Communicate Honestly: Be prepared to have open and meaningful conversations. Be honest and allow the conversation to flow from lightMeaningful Connection: Make sure you both feel heartedness into the deeper expression of loved. A healthy relationship should be balanced feelings and fears. and you should both feel loved and emotionally fulfilled. If you haven’t found your perfect match or don’t find love this Spring stop looking. Love will find Disagree Respectfully: You won’t always agree you if you concentrate on completing you and on everything. And that is quite acceptable. At enjoying the things you do. And when it does find times you may even be frustrated and angry. you, take you time and allow your relationship to Don’t attack the person, acknowledge the blossom. difference honestly and with respect.

“Spring adds new life and new beauty to all that is” – Jessica Harrelson

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Do Opposites Really Attract? Birds of a feather flock together…. Spring has arrived, so there is now excuse to go out and catch up with friends or go on are date with your beau. But chances are if you are new to town or ready to start dating again you might feel a little uncertain about getting out and meeting new people. So who are you really attracted to and will they be attracted to you?

o opposites really attract? This is an ongoing social debate, some say opposites attract, others like attracts like. In fact research suggests that we are really attracted to those who are similar to ourselves. Yet relationship counsellors recommend dating someone who is different, someone who is your opposite. So which is right? And does it really matter? I mean you’re happy together? Aren’t you? While around 80% of us believe opposites attract, psychologists and sociologists suggest this is a myth. Researchers Wu YouYou. David Stillwell, and H. Andrew Schwartz found that we are in fact attracted to those with similar characteristics. Friends and spouses tend to have similar characteristics: age, educational level, race, religion, attitudes, and general intelligence. They also reported evidence that we are attracted to the same personality type. You might be now thinking, well this makes sense. Someone like me will understand me better. They will connect better.

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We connect socially when we perceive there are similarities. In fact researcher Donn Byrne found people are more attracted to others who share similar behaviours, and sociodemographics. This leads to similarity in our social networks, a phenomenon known as the homophily principle. Homophily presents in our social networks, in online dating, and in our social media networks. So if similarity is more pervasive than we believe, why should be really be looking for someone who is opposite to us? One reason is homophily, or the homogeneity of our social networks is limiting. Social researchers Miller McPherson, Lynn SmithLovin, and James M Cook, found we are limited in the information we receive, the attitudes we form, and the interactions we experience. Homophilous networks create strong divides in our personal environments, across the dimensions of age, religion, education, occupation, and gender. They also found relationships between nonsimilar people dissolve at a higher rate.

While is seems overwhelmingly that like attracts like, is too much similarity healthy for the relationship? It can be quite comforting to meet someone new and feel that they are just like you. But will too much similarity stifle the relationship? We all need to grow and develop throughout our life. So while similar traits are healthy for your relationship, make sure that you feel there is space for self-development in the relationship. Clinical Psychologist, Ramani Durvasula suggests that alignment of values is more important in a relationship than opposite interests and backgrounds. It seems conclusive that like attracts like. You might be pondering some of the romantic relationships you know, like your grandparents, your parents, and your friends. It is obvious, some of these relationships are complementary rather than similar. At least for certain characteristics. Granddad may have been the grumpy serious one while Grandma was the soft and gentle one. You may complement your partner. Think about, who makes the decisions? Clinical Psychologists Andrew Christensen, Brian Doss and Neil Jacobson found evidence that over time as our relationships mature, we actually move toward a more complementary role. So if complementary roles evolve over time, surely this leaves room for an attraction to the opposite. Someone different to us can bring the excitement of the unknown to our lives. Life Coach Elisa Robyn, believes dating someone who is our opposite opens us to new ideas, experiences, and people, which expands our minds and challenges our opinions and beliefs. A little tension can be exciting! Those differences and uncertainties may lift our relationships. Even a safe, secure, comfortable relationship may become stifling and monotonous if not balanced with a little excitement, passion, and risk.

“We tend to gravitate to people who have similar interests to us, and who are similar to us in background,”

- Ramani Durvasula

So it appears you may find you’re attracted to someone opposite to you but in reality they may be more similar than you think and they may be your perfect complement. Ultimately, if you find you have mutual trust, respect, and caring, you may have just everything you need in your relationship. Finally, if you can exercise these 5 C’s your relationships will have good grounding.

Communication, Common ground, Compromise, Clarity, and Chemistry.

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Exercise to Connect Take 5 minutes to think about your friends, family and peers. When ready, jot down some points for your personal journey. Are you happy with where you are? We all have the ability to connect. Complete this plan to help you grow your connected self.

What do I want to achieve?

How will I achieve these goals?

When do I want to achieve these goals?

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Living in harmony with nature and respecting the environment for a sustainable growth.

Sustain Heaven is under our feet as well as over our heads. Henry David Thoreau

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A Small Hero Tiny Homes

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This is the final instalment of a three part series where I look at the benefits of A Small Hero – Tiny Home, Small Home, Granny Flat or Secondary dwelling

As an Australian after years of living in the large homes and apartments in Victoria, when I moved to Hong Kong I experienced the rude awakening of living in under 60m2 and I did this for nearly ten years. It became a personal epiphany around how I lived and what was really important in my life, streamlining the essentials, living a minimalistic existence but essentially enjoying a big lifestyle. We all bring our life experiences to the table when considering our homes, investments and living arrangements which change overtime, but essential can typically remain the same (i.e. kitchen, bathroom, sleeping, lounge & outside areas). Really how much space we all need is a personal choice, but from my experience it is normally more than we really need and with good design and professional help you will be surprised at the results and benefits. Generally our residential choices centre around available finance, cultural awareness, life experiences, personal & family values or what’s important to use, available information ,choices, planning options, construction, design and technology.

In living throughout Victoria in Melbourne and regional areas, travelling extensively and in Hong Kong and Shenzhen, I lived a compact lifestyle which has made me appreciate smart minimalistic design. When talking about a tiny home, small home or granny flat I am thinking about a design from 30 - 90m2, which is plenty with all the smart technology and constructions options available today. No matter where you live in Australia reach out to your local council and planning department to confirm any local requirements for building or designing a tiny home or granny flat on your land or the property you’re considering.

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Exploring the global phenomenon of Tiny or Small Home designs and Granny Flats which can really demonstrate their value, by maximize technology, design functionality, minimal carbon footprint, sustainability and it can make a lot of financial sense, so explore and enjoy the experience. In my view Tiny Homes or Granny Flats are all about thinking green, considering affordability, practising minimalism, enjoying smart design, exploring innovative construction, dynamic styling, reduced running costs and maximizing the use of technology. So, take an opportunity to consider this small hero when exploring the options and benefits of Tiny Homes and Granny Flats for your property or potential investment. This research and information and ideas around secondary dwellings could make a real difference to the value of your existing home or influence your decision when your looking to buy to better future proof your decisions.

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Challenge your thinking around how much space you really need now & for the future. Having the options to build a tiny home or granny flat on your land can really add value to your property but also provide a wonderful living space for family. Reach out to your local council, design & planning professionals, and also experts builders of Tiny Homes and Granny Flats, taking the time to do the research will provide answers, minimize risks and provide a solution you may have never thought possible.

Living small, smart, comfortable and affordable is a great option to consider, so be your own hero and start the journey today. A Small hero – Tiny Home, Small Home, Granny Flat or Secondary dwelling

Andrew Johnson is a licensed estate agent, businessman & entrepreneur based in Brown Hill who has enjoyed a long and varied business career in Australia and overseas providing solutions and building a strong referral business.

Mobile 0473 207 988 Email andrew@maxjre.com LinkedIn http://linkedin.com/in/andrew-johnson-8435092 Company Maxwell Johnson Real Estate Pty Ltd Address 9 Gracefield Road, Brown Hill, VIC 3350

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Feng Shui - Wellbeing The Chinese have always believed in the balance and harmony of nature and sought to reflect that balance The Chinese have always believed in the balance and harmony of nature and sought to reflect that balance in their daily living. Feng Shui is the traditional Chinese art from that has been practiced for over 6,000 years. It is the study of the environment and the interaction between the environment, places, people and time.

alance is reflected in the passive, the active, the feminine, the masculine, the heaven, the earth, the living and the dead, the Yin and the Yang. It is the tajitu symbol that expresses this balance, this dualism of two interlocking spirals. Feng Shui seeks the balance between the Yin and the Yang to enhance positive chi and correct negative chi. Yin refers to aspects qi that are relatively material, substantial, condensing, solid, heavy, descending, cold, moist, cooling, dark, passive and quiescent. Yang refers to aspects qi that are relatively immaterial, expanding, hollow, light, ascending, hot, dry, warming, bright, aggressive, and active. Chi is the flow of energy which pertains to all living things such as trees, plants, humans and animals.

Wellbeing Designing a peaceful and welcoming home using good Feng Shui principles will give you a positive mindset which may lower stress and strengthen your immune system. Here are some Feng Shui practices that will help boost your home’s Chi. Be open to receiving the Chi. Remove Clutter: Clutter is not only visually and physically draining. Clutter can drain you emotionally. The less clutter the more good Chi energy flows and you will be able to think with clarity.

Balance the Elements: Feng Shui is rules by the elements of Earth, Water, Fire, Wood, and Metal. Each of these elements should be present in your home. This can be a symbolic representation. A candle or an orange object may signify fire. Positive and Negative: House plants not only purify the air they bring good Chi to your home. Wooden furniture balanced with metal symbolise wealth and should be near the entrance and in the study. Good Lighting: Natural light filtering through your home can bring happiness and joy. Mirrors can also boost lighting and reflect the harmony within your home. Colours: use tones through your home that reflect the five elements. Kitchen – yellow for vigour and energy Bathroom – cool colours are refreshing and relaxing Bedrooms – blue and green are relaxing and promote sleep Library or study – beige or hazelnut stimulates the intellect

By following these simple principles you should be ready to invite new opportunities and positive energy into your life.

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Exercise to Sustain Take 5 minutes to think about your home, nature and environment. When ready, jot down some points for your personal journey. Are you happy with where you are? We all have the ability to sustain. Complete this plan to help you grow your sustainable self.

What do I want to achieve?

How will I achieve these goals?

When do I want to achieve these goals?

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Feeling a sense of security and stability by being able to comfortably meet current and future commitments and needs.

Grow Chase the vision, not the money; the money will end up following you. Tony Hsieh

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Your Christmas Saving Plan Jacqueline Hodges

ts only 100 days until Christmas. As you know, Christmas can be one of the most financially stressful times of the year. We all put enormous expectations on ourselves, on what gifts to buy, what food to prepare, where to go, who is coming to stay, decorating the house, and what our Christmas feast will be this year. Christmas is meant to be a joyous time, for love, for catching up with family and friends, for doing something charitable. But if you’re already struggling with debt and meeting financial commitments, then you will struggle with your feelings of peace, joy and goodwill.

So, let’s deal with this. It’s time to get back on track. After all, you do want to spread the joy this year! So, put pen to paper, put a plan in place, prepare a budget, and get yourself Christmas ready. You may need to make some adjustments to current spending habits, but that’s okay. You know it is a little short-term pain for some longer term gain. You may feel overwhelmed by the idea of putting a budget together. So, in this article I will provide you with some guidance to begin your Christmas Savings journey. The best time to start your Christmas Savings is actually very early in the year. Say around February, when the festive season is well and truly over. The next best time is now! Just think of planning now as your training for next year. You will need to gather the details of your income and expenses. Remember that you may need to start spending early in December for gifts, decorations, tableware, and frozen foods. And you will certainly need to start spending the week before and up to Christmas for perishable foods. So, make allowance for that early and later spending. If you follow the next few steps you will be well on your savings journey.

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1. Make a date with yourself Set aside some time and clear a space, so that you are mentally prepared to think about your budget and Christmas savings plan. Have a notepad ready. You can use a variety of tools, such as a mind-map, post-it notes, an excel spreadsheet, an electronic notepad or specialist software. Whichever, tools you are going to use, have these ready to commence your date. Gather all the documents that will help you work out your personal budget. This might include, your sources of income, all your expenses, bank statements and credit card statements.

2. Work out your income Look at your income documents and bank statements to work out what your net income is. Write this figure at the top of your list.

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3. Work out your expenses In this section, you need to consider where your money goes. Look at your expense documents, bank statements and credit card statements to work out what your net income is. Your expenses will include amounts that are fixed, flexible and some that are quarterly or annual.

Here are some examples for Fixed, Flexible and Monthly/Quarterly/Annual expenses: •

Fixed expenses, include rent, mortgage repayments, car loans and phone/ internet plans

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Flexible expenses: food, clothing, entertainment, medical and additional mortgage payments

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Monthly expenses: mortgage repayments, phone, electricity and private health insurance

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Quarterly expenses: rates and water charges

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Annual expenses: insurance and car registration

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Be honest with yourself. There is no point trying to hide an expense here!

4. Create your budget Your budget is the basis of your spending plan and allow for your savings too. It should meet your needs first and then you wants. Your income should be more than your expenses. You should have some funds left over in the budget for your savings plan.

5. Create your Christmas Savings plan Set up a new bank account, especially for your Christmas Savings. Check back to your budget at the beginning of each month. You have three checking dates: October, November, and December. On these days, you can check to see how your savings are growing and on target, and feel confident that you will have money set aside for.

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Here’s 9 Tips to Saving this Christmas 1. Limit the number of gifts

5. Homemade decorations

The last two years have been difficult for many, so put a limit the number gifts you buy. You will find your family and friends if not in the same boat, will certainly understand.

Christmas decorations are beautiful, but nothing beats the joy a child hanging their hand made decorations on the tree. You can make, paper chains, pipe cleaner ornaments, and painted pine cones.

2. Made by You is a treat Share your love with gifts made by you. Your family and friends will appreciate your talents and the time and effort you put in to make a handmade treasure, made just for them. 3. Give meaningful presents Buy gifts that are lasting, needed and useful. Ask your friends and family what they would like. But try to be discreet, so they will still enjoy the surprise. And try to avoid anything that has batteries.

6. Make a list Write a list of the presents you will buy, a second list for the food, a third list of other Christmas Day items. Check it regularly and cross off the items as they are bought. 7. Use your rewards You will be purchasing more than you normally would. So your store rewards will accumulate faster than usual. Use the rewards to offset some of the spending.

4. Set cost limits

8. Watch out for Scams

Knowing how much you are going to spend will make your Christmas saving plan a little easier. If everyone knows this budget, there will be no disappointments or uneven exchanges.

Australians lost over $851 million to scams in 2020 Australians lost over $851 million to scams in 2020. Be alert, check Scamwatch, and be careful when buying gifts this holiday season. 9. Money left in the kitty At the end of the festive season, you may find you haven’t spent all Christmas savings. Well done you! Those store rewards did come in handy. Keep the savings for next year.

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Give Yourself a Gift You’ve worked hard preparing your Christmas savings plan, so give yourself a treat for doing a good job. So, whether it’s buying a bunch of flowers, burning a tranquil incense, splurging of something luxurious, or just a smile in the mirror give yourself a gift. Positive reinforcement is powerful.

Improve Your Financial Literacy Not that you have taken these steps, if you are ready to grow financially, and learn more about financial matters. You can read blogs and books, listen to podcasts about personal finance and investments or speak with your financial adviser. Financial literacy is something you can learn.

Speak with Your financial Adviser Christmas is an important time of year, but it is only one part of your life. You should look at a complete personal budget and savings plan that caters to your whole lifestyle. How you fund your lifestyle choices requires planning and the earlier you start you will be able to control saving and preparing. Once you have your goals established you need to consider how much you will need to fund those goals. Ask yourself. Are your goals feasible? Do your plans make financial sense? Are they viable? Can you save enough to fund those goals? Your whole lifestyle plan may have a multi-pronged approach. You may be saving a deposit for your first home, saving for an incredible overseas holiday once the borders are open, waiting to downsize from the family home into a smaller property and use the excess equity for your retirement funds. If you haven’t got a plan yet, that’s ok. Now is the time to focus on your future, consider what options you have and set your plan in motion.

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Jacqueline Hodges is a Chartered Accountant, Registered Tax Agent and SMSF Auditor. She is a Financial Adviser and an authorised representative of Wealth Today. She has a wealth of experience having worked in the financial services sector for most of her career. Jacqueline is a firm believer in continuing education and holds a Bachelor of Commerce (UQ), a Master of Taxation (UM), and a Financial Planning Certificate. She established her own accounting firm servicing individuals and small businesses in 2005 and complemented the business in 2015 with the opening of the financial advice division.

“The best time to start was yesterday. The next best time is now.” – Unknown

Disclaimer: The information contained in this article is general in nature and may not be relevant to your personal circumstance and needs. Taxation, legal and other matters referred to in this article are of a general nature only and are based on laws existing at the time and should not be relied upon in place of appropriate professional advice. We recommend that you assess whether the information is appropriate to your needs and if appropriate speak with a financial adviser to discuss your needs, financial situation and investment objectives. HQ Wealth Pty Ltd as trustee for HQ Wealth (CAR 1238791) and Jacqueline Hodges (AR 1238790) are Authorised Representatives of Wealth Today Pty Ltd (ABN 62 133 393 263), AFSL 340289.

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How will I achieve these goals?

When do I want to achieve these goals?

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Reaching a sense of fulfillment while maintaining a work-life balance and positively influencing the growth of the organisation where you work.

Work You will never feel truly satisfied by work until you are satisfied by life. Heather Schuck

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Freelancer - Build Your Team Jacqueline Hodges

It’s a strong and well known concept that the best businesses, those that have a chance of surviving are built with a strong foundation. So just what does that mean? And how do you start? Whether you want a small gig on the side or you are dream of a seven-figure empire, starting a business is a journey, I’ve spoken with many women who have a dream but don’t know where or how to begin this journey. So this is article is about the beginning, how to build your team 84 | Embrace

n today’s gig economy, being a freelancer, does offer a certain amount of flexibility but it also comes with a lot of uncertainty. And in these uncertain times finding a great paying gig, remaining engaged, and getting paid on time is getting tougher. Small businesses are folding and leaving debts on the table and it’s your table that is at risk. One way to overcome this risk is to go after the corporate gigs. You might think I’m too small but really that is your mindset! If you are good at what you do and can manage a team then tendering for a larger project is within your reach. You just need to surround yourself with a team, and at this early stage a virtual team is fine.

Hire Right

Hiring the right people for your remote team is crucial. But the upside is you don’t have to rely on local talent. If you have the right recruiting system in place and ignore time zones you will find the best people for your team. Refine your interview process and ask the tough questions. Test for ability, skill, resilience, and problem solving. If your team is global you won’t always be available to respond to questions, so knowing your team can manage their own time and handle the small problems for themselves will be a bonus.

Presentation is the key!

Presentation is the key to winning that tender. You need to present yourself and your team as the A Team. Keep your teams profile current with the latest headshot and bio on your website. Present your team as a team of expert creative thinkers. With a cross section of talent, and a uniform look your team will present as a business that is able to handle larger projects.

Team cohesion

Team cohesion is vital to securing those larger projects. Ensure your team is on page with the company culture. With a global team you may have to be creative to build the bonds and keep everyone engaged. Ask team members to create a slide desk of their life to share each month or post real time pictures of what’s happening in their town. It’s about relationship building, social connection, and feeling supported.

Collaboration

Virtual teams do require effort and has some unique challenges. There is no brain storming around the drinks fountain, all communication and work flow management relies on good technology. Smaller teams tend to work better, with less error and miscommunication.

Communication Essentials

Communication is the essential! Communication is about building and maintaining relationships. As you start to build your team you need to have tools that allow communication between your team and you, and between team members. As you grow and you start to build a team, you will need to think about the communication between you and your team.

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Planning

It all begins with planning. Plan, plan, plan and then plan some more. Do you remember the five w’s, who, what, where, why, and how. Well that is your starting point. Set aside some time, find a quiet space, and think about your response to these questions.

1. Who do you need? Think: skillsets, jurisdiction, time zones, age, gender

2. When do you need them by? Think: projects, milestones, before, during, after, ongoing

3. What soft skills do they have? Think: resilience, empathy, communication, emotional intelligence

4. What roles do they perform? Think: project needs, gap fill, cross fit, interdependency

5. What technology do you need? Think: data, project management, communication, workflows, KPIs

6. What type of team? Think: networked, parallel, product development, service

7. How are you going to form bonds? Think: chat rooms, information sharing, video conferencing, meetings The success of your remote team is built on trust, communication, adaptability, engagement and good leadership. You won’t always get it right but as you build your team you will learn what works and what doesn’t work for you and your business. And if you feel that recruitment is just beyond you, then engage a recruitment team. They will have the experience and knowledge to recruit right and help build your team.

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Tech Stack Amy Leigh

Freelancers are met with a host of challenges every day, so having the right tech stack is essential. With so much on offer, it’s hard to pick and choose the right tech stack for your business, so in this article I feature apps, suites, and tools currently available. This article talks about freemium apps and tools. If you are a freelancer, sole trader, or a start-up you will want to keep your software costs as low as possible. At this stage you might not be ready or even need to expand into the higher-end full bells and whistles levels. Fortunately, there are apps and tools out there to help you manage your work flows in the free to freemium range. You might ask what’s the difference between free and freemium? Well some companies offer small business almost the complete range to experience for free. These are the freemium models. Others offer a free trail for a limited time frame.

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One of the biggest issues we have in business is managing our time and knowing: •

what is the budget time,

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where we lost time,

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why we lost time, and

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how can we improve.

Having the right time management skills and tools can help identify efficiencies and inefficiencies. So here is my top five time management and productivity apps.

ActiveCollab

ActiveCollab is a great app, if you need to combine time tracking, time billing with project management. It has functionality for timesheets, stopwatch, time reporting and job types. This is particularly useful for creative projects and for distributed teams. It offers much more, with a dashboard for workflow, client, and resource management, and project profitability. It also has a great list of integrations like Slack, Dropbox, Google Drive, Zapier, and cloud accounting packages Xero and Quickkbooks. ActiveCollab works on desktop and on mobile devices.

RescueTime

RescueTime will rescue your productivity. It measures and tracks what you are doing on your desktop and mobile device. This is not a time-tracking tool nor an employee monitoring tool. Rather it collects data about the apps and sites you use to provide insight as to how you use your time and assesses your productivity. As a freemium app you will have all the bells and whistles you need. But for a deep dive analysis you will have to more to premium.

TimeCamp

TimeCamp is a great B2B freemium app that provides time tracking and project profitability. This app is terrific, if you are looking to track employee time and performance, collaborate with the team and your clients, and see your project profitability. It has a great suite of integrations including project management, collaboration, CRM & sales, software development, and cloud accounting. And yes it is mobile friendly.

Time Doctor

Time Doctor is a great tool for employee monitoring. It is a highly scalable app suitable for freelancers to corporations. The introductory level allows for time tracking, project management but you will have to move up to premium for employee monitoring. It is useful if you want to drill down into the data at a project level.

Forest

Forest is for focus. This is a rewards based tool to help curb your time wasting and improve your productivity and efficiency by improving your focus. Its cutesy for sure and if you remain focused you can grow a virtual tree into a forest. If you lose focus your tree will die. But really, although it has great reviews so it seems to work, I think I’d be constantly checking to see if my tree was growing!

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Exercise to Work Take 5 minutes to think about your career, workplace and ambitions. When ready, jot down some points for your personal journey. Are you happy with where you are? We all have the ability to work. Complete this plan to help you grow your working self.

What do I want to achieve?

How will I achieve these goals?

When do I want to achieve these goals?

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Feeling a sense of belonging by participating in various cultural activities and embracing the cultural differences of the community.

Belong We exist to serve our community. That’s the most important mindset to maintain. Chris Brogan

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Salad, Soup & Smoothie Oranges, Lemons, and Grapefruit Spring is the season for citrus fruit and bring striking colour, and can a playful twist to your diet. In this issue, we celebrate the orange, the lemon and the grapefruit. Oranges bring a juicy freshness to your salad, lemons are superb in this heart-warming traditional soup, and grapefruit bring a natural revitalising and nutritional boost to your smoothies. So, quench your thirst or stave your hunger with these elixirs. 94 | Embrace

Citrus Salad Ingredients

Directions

For the pickling:

1. Mix sugar, vinegar and onion and set aside for 15 minutes to lightly pickle. Drain and reserve the pickling vinegar.

¼ cup

red onion

6 tbsp

white wine vinegar

1/2 tsp

white sugar

For the salad: 1

blood orange

navel orange

pink grapefruit

fennel, finely sliced

2 tbsp

extra virgin olive oil

pine nuts raisins fresh dill

salt and black pepper

For the dressing: 2 tbsp

pickling vinegar (reserved)

2 tbsp

orange juice (reserved)

2 tbsp

extra virgin olive oil

Salt and pepper to taste

Equipment Vegetable peeler Whisk Colander Large salad bowl for serving Small bottle to mix salad dressing

2. Remove rinds from oranges and grapefruit, and slice into rounds, reserving 2 teaspoons of juice from the board. 3. In a small bowl or jar whisk together the reserved pickling vinegar, orange juice, and extra virgin olive oil. Season with salt and pepper to taste. 4. Toss fennel in 1 tablespoon of the pickling vinegar, and olive oil. Season with salt and pepper to taste. 5. Place half an orange and grapefruit on serving plate. Add layer of 2/3 of fennel, onion, and parsley. Layer with more oranges. Top with remaining fennel, oranges, grapefruit, and onion. 6. Garnish with pinenuts, raisins, and dill. 7. When ready to serve pour dressing over the salad.

Variations a. Substitute garnish with lightly toasted almond flakes and parsley. b. Substitute garnish with pomegranate and mint. c. Spiced dressing: combine ¾ tsp cumin seeds, ½ tsp mild chilli or paprika, ½ tsp ground black pepper, ½ tsp sale, ½ tsp fresh chopped thyme, ¼ tsp coriander, 1/8 tsp ground cinnamon.

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Vegan Avgolemono This vegan variation of the traditional Greek Lemon Soup will become a delightful favourite. It is nutritional and easy to prepare. The whole wheat orzo and chick peas turn this into a heart-warming and healthy meal to share.

Soup Ingredients 2 tbsp

extra virgin olive oil

½1

large onion, finely chopped

celery stalks, finely chopped

large carrots, finely chopped

garlic cloves

6 cups

vegetable stock

1 cup

whole wheat orzo

2 cup

chick peas

handful fresh spinach

¼ cup

fresh dill

2 tbsp

tahini

½ cup

lemon juice, freshly squeezed

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Equipment Large pot Cream soup bowls for serving

Directions 1. In a large pot, sauté onions, carrots, and celery in olive oil over a low heat for 7 mins, add garlic and sauté for another 3 mins. Stirring occasionally until vegetables are translucent. 2. Add vegetable stock, and bring to the boil. Once boiled lower heat and add orzo and chickpeas. Cover with lid and cook at gentle boil for around 8 mins or until orzo is tender. 3. Remove from heat, add tahini and slowly stir in lemon juice. Stir in spinach, and add dill. Season with salt and pepper. 4. Pour soup into serving bowls, garnish with extra dill and lemon zest, then serve.

Variations a. Miso Tahini Lemon Sauce: blend 2 tbsp tahini, 2 tbsp white miso paste, 1/3 cup lemon juice with 2 cups of stock from the soup. Allow soup to cool a little then stir into your rice until well combined. Garnish with dill or parsley b. Lemon Rice Soup: substitute orzo with brown jasmine or short-grain rice. Cook rice in stock for around 20 mins or until to ready. c. Bring all the herbs: add oregano, thyme, parsley, basil, coriander, or any other herb to the stock.

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Grapefruit with zap Smoothie Sublimely tropical, this ruby grapefruit smoothie with its pinapple and coconut will have you revitalized all day.

Ingredients 1

Ruby grapefruit

2 cups

pineapple pieces

1/3 cup

Greek yoghurt

1 tbsp

coconut oil

½ cm

fresh ginger

Topped with:

Pinapple and granola

Variations • Substitute Granola with Red Apple Pieces

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Green Grapefruit Smoothie

Detoxify with this refreshingly tart and sweet grapefruit smoothie packed with vitamins and minerals form the spinach and natural sweetness from the banana and cucumber.

Ingredients 1

grapefruit, peeled and seeded

small cucumber

2 cups

spinach

large banana

½ cup

orange juice

½ tsp

fresh ginger

Directions • In blender, add all ingredients and blend on high for 2 to 3 minutes or until smooth and creamy. If smoothie is too thick, add a little more juice or water.

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Macramé and Mindfulness

acramé, the art of knotting twine into beautiful objects is making a comeback and it is mindful. It is an ancient art used a millennia ago to adorn the costumes of the Babylonians and Assyrians. As one of the simplest crafts to learn, you will not only be mindfully passing time you will have the pleasure of creating your own objet d’art. Objet d’art pieces maybe small domestic wall hangings and soft furnishings or large monolithic museum installation pieces. There are many pieces that can be made from bedspreads, tablecloths, plant hangers, and jewellery. Macramé jewellery often incorporates glass beads, bone or shells. Macrame is a creative, tactile and versatile experience that commences with the decision of what to create. Are you going to make something small and functional like a plant holder, or something more whimsical like a wall hanging? Is your project more on the larger scale perhaps a swing or an installation? Whatever you make, once it is complete you will be filled with a sense of achievement and pride. Macramé allows you to create from the perhaps less challenging belt through to an awe inspring textile display pushing the boundaries of modern sculptural installations. If you live alone, you may benefit from joining a Macramé group to help hone your skills and for the fun of social connectivity.

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The basic knots Lark’s head knot - A simple knot used to attach your work to a dowel or hoop Square knot -A knot that you alternate by starting on the left and right side so it creates a square Spiral knot - A half square knot you don’t alternate but repeat on either the left or right side so it spirals Half hitch - A knot where you loop one cord over the other Double half hitch - A half hitch knot you simply loop twice to get a double one

“Craft is passionately creating something with your hands.”

– Sarah Chatterton

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Here are seven reasons to take up macramé: 1.

Creative pursuit

Whether it’s a plant holder, a belt, a ring or a swing, you will feel the joy and pride of having created and completed something, by yourself with your own hands. Macramé allows you to make something tangible and express your creativity.

Project Manager

Macramé with purpose, involves the head, the heart and the hand. It may improve your State of Flow and spontaneity. As you move from novice to creator, your confidence will increase. You may also find your upper limb and finger strength improve as your arms and fingers are constantly yet effortlessly moving.

Macramé is a project, requiring management of your time, your resources, your costs and your labour. You need to complete the task in your desired time, and often in your spare time. As you fit in those few rows in the morning before work, and later away from the box each night, you will soon understand how long the project will take. You’ve made multiple decisions along the way, from the pattern, the colours, and the yarn. Think of the five W’s you have decided; who you are making for, when you will do the Macramé, what you are making, where you will do this, and why you are doing this project. You may also find Macramé strengthens your mind and slows cognitive decline.

Optimistic self

Focus Booster

Macramé allows you to escape the worries of daily life and focus on your creation. Whether you are a novice or a master you focus will improve from counting knots and rows. You will become absorbed in the creative process. Being able to fully focus on something helps the mind relax, and reduces anxiety.

Stress Buster

Stress can affect both your physical and mental health. The physical process and tactile experience of Macramé is a rhythmic, repetitive motion that allows you to rely on your muscle memory. As you become fully focused on creating your piece, you may enter the zone and move to a State of Flow, which produces feelings of enjoyment and has a positive effect on happiness.

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Brain Trainer

Macramé engages almost the whole brain, stimulating the frontal lobe, the parietal lobe, the occipital lobe, the temporal lobe, and the cerebellum. You will be engaging areas of the brain that stimulate and reward processing, attention and planning, which handle sensory information and spatial navigation, which process visual information, which involves in storing memories and interpreting language and meaning, and which coordinate precision and timing of movement.

Social Builder

Macramé is no longer the domain expertise of you grandmother or something best left in the 70’s. There is a resurgence. And if you are seeking a new experience, new in town or wanting to extend your social networks then sip and knit sessions may be a another way to meet new people. You will be with a group, where you can develop you skills in a social learning environment.

Just remember, there are no rules to art, and beauty is in the eye of the beholder. So, express yourself as you desire in your hobby. You may be more creative than you think. And if you are not really into lengths of knitted yarn evolving, you may find crochet, tatting or pattern creation more to your personality. Embrace | 103

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Exercise to Belong Take 5 minutes to think about your culture, community and creativity. When ready, jot down some points for your personal journey. Are you happy with where you are? We all have the ability to belong. Complete this plan to help you grow your cultural self.

What do I want to achieve?

How will I achieve these goals?

When do I want to achieve these goals?

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Deeply connecting with self and something greater than ourselves to find and integrate the meaning and purpose of life.

Reflect We cannot reach happiness by consciously searching for it Mihaly Csikszentmihalyi

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Total Recall: What Your Dreams Mean Do you remember your dreams from last night? Do you recall any of your dreams? Are the details vivid and strong? Are they related to your experiences from the day before? Can we make our dreams work for us? Have you ever dreamed you were dreaming? While there is no rationally confirmed reason to why we dream what we dream, there are many interesting theories that try to explain this process. Some believe that dreams are made up of different images and situations that our brain puts together, from our everyday functions, thoughts, emotions, and memories. There are some researches that prove that dreams are influenced by our experiences and thoughts from when we are awake. If you spend some significant time searching for a house you are interested to buy, there is a good chance that your dream would also consist of a house. Our dreams seem help us to unravel our daily life, resolve lingering problems and reframe our stresses. During slumber, our dreaming brain conjures up highly vivid visualisations and office illogical sequences to help us resolve problems by thinking outside of the box, when our emotional defences are resting. Yet we rarely remember our dreams. 108 | Embrace

While we rarely remember our dreams, certain ones we don’t forget. It seems that only the most beautiful or bizzare dreams are the ones that we remember. Research suggest that we can use out dreams to solve problems with lucid dreaming or dream incubation. There are five steps to using your dreams:

1. Clarify the problem 2. Write the problem down 3. Keep a journal by your bed 4. Stick to a regular sleep pattern 5. Repeat the process if necessary 6. Be patient and trust your dreaming

Our reader, Karen sent in a strange episodic dream. She writes she had a disrupted sleep awaking for an alarm reminder at 6.00am, 6.05am, 6.15am and 6.25am. Each time she went back into a deep sleep and each time added a chapter to her dream. Karen dreamt she was getting ready for an exam, when she saw a large eagle with a bandaged broken wing in front of the side door of her home. The eagle also had a green military jacket on with a belt tied securely around the body as if the bird had a waist. She recalls the bird seemed quite friendly. During her second dream phase Karen was conscious that she was dreaming and tried to understand and rationalise way the bird was wearing a jacket. Her dream interpretation was that the jacket protected the bird so that it wouldn’t try to use its broken wing. The third dream phase added context to the original. Karen writes that she felt she was not in her home but in the family room of her childhood home, although it wasn’t really the house that she grew up in. She also recalled feeling her mother and siblings being present, although she doesn’t recall seeing them or any conversation or interactions. Karen writes that during the fourth phase of dreaming, she decided to take the eagle home to its owners who lived next door.

She recalls two outlandish men with blond hair and exaggerated curls. They thanked her for returning their eagle and asked her to come to a party that evening. This is a complex dream, with changing scenery in each of the interwoven dreams. There is also a dream within a dream, at one stage Karen is aware that she was dreaming. Karen didn’t provide any context and say whether there may be any external events influencing her dreams. But it is an interesting dream that seems to convey strong feelings of safety and security. Continue reading for my interpretation. Karen’s recurring dreams may indicate that there is a situation or a person that she does not want to face. If you realise that you are in the midst of a false awakening stay in the dream state and try to see and understand what your dreaming brain is revealing. Dream interpretation may be fairly obvious to someone who knows you well or to a highly intuitive person. But your dreams are unique and belong to you alone. They are highly personal. When you awake remembering a vivid dream, think about what it may mean to you. Your dreams as a reflection of your waking life, mirroring your fears, anxieties, desires, hopes, and aspirations. Before we explore the symbolic meaning of dreams, remember that dream interpretation is a general guide that may not always explain the what, the where or the why for you. Put your dream in context.

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Eagle

Military Jacket

Dreaming of Eagles is generally a positive sign and associated with wish fulfilment, accomplishment of goals, and may be a signal that it is time to reconnect with your spiritual path and follow your heart. If the bird is chirping in your dream, you may be feeling a sense of spiritual freedom and liberation. It may be that you are ambitious and determined to achieve a goal, and that you can sense you are ready to soar, you have found the freedom and independence to achieve your goal.

Dreaming of a jacket may indicate you face constraints in your waking life and you are preparing to be freed you’re your worries and problems. The jacket (like the bandage) is a form of protection, and when you are ready to be released, the symbolic jacket in your waking will come away. Dreaming of wearing a green jacket, may provide you with a sense of grounding, and a connection to nature and the earth.

Broken Wing

Visiting Family Home

Dreaming of a bird with a broken wing, may be a portent of harm. You may be sensing you in a dangerous predicament and someone or some event is hampering your efforts in the waking world. A bandaged wing may signal you need extra comfort and protection. You may feel somewhat vulnerable in your waking life. If the bird is friendly your dream is a portent for motherly love, faithfulness, new birth or fertility. You may be sensing you will soon be ready to move forward with your plans and goals.

Revisiting your old childhood home, may indicate you are feeling overwhelmed, and need to feel the connection and safety you experienced in your childhood. Seeing the back door of your family home, portents to new opportunities and exploring your options. If in your dream you felt at peace in your family home, you may have resolved the issues you were facing in your waking life.

Green Blue is the colour of growth and new beginnings, and symbolises that you may be ready for a personal transformation. It represents health, success, vitality, peace, and hope. Dreaming of a green jacket could mean you sincere and genuine. A blue evening gown indicates a positive calming influence in the future. If you dreamed of wearing something deep green may allude to overcoming obstacles, attaining a goal, or success in financial matters.

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Blonde Curly Hair

Dreaming about strangers is fairly common. It may mean you are feeling emotional but do not know why or symbolise not accepting the truth. It may also be a reminder that there is something urgent that you need to attend to, so you can achieve success. Dreaming of talking with strangers is a good sign. It may mean that new paths are open to you or perhaps someone you haven’t seen in a while will come back to see you. If you dream of strangers surrounding you, means you should start thinking about yourself little more and open yourself to new opportunities. If your dream caused you to feel anxious or frightened you may be encountering an emotionally unstable time.

Dreaming of blond curly hair portents to an ending and signals an elevated level of awareness. It may mean you are ready to achieve your goals and bring an end to a project, a relationship, or situation.

Strangers Dreaming about strangers may mean you are feeling emotional but do not know why or symbolise not accepting the truth. It may also be a reminder that there is something urgent that you need to attend to, so you can achieve success. Dreaming of talking with strangers is a good sign. It may mean that new paths are open to you or perhaps someone you haven’t seen in a while will come back to see you. If you dream of strangers surrounding you, means you should start thinking about yourself little more and open yourself to new opportunities. If your dream caused you to feel anxious or frightened you may be encountering an emotionally unstable time.

Interpreting dreams does not solely depend on the details, the objects or events that you see. It can also be altered by the colours in your dreams. Again, the meaning of things you see in your dreams may vary from person to person. However, observing your dreams is a good practice of knowing yourself in and out. Remember to give your body a relaxing sleep to see positive and sweet dreams.

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Exploring Flamenco October beings the season of the Flamenco Festivals throughout Spain. This art form is a combination of folkloric music (guitarra), song (cante) and dance (baille). Flamenco dancing, El baille flamenco, is known for its emotional intensity, expressive arm movements and rhythmic foot stamping. Dancers attain a deep emotional state and express their emotions using body movements and facial expressions. Traditionally, the art form was passed down through family and friends but many are professionally trained today and the dance form is now popular throughout the world.

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lamenco is an art form that is believed to have cultural influences from Romani (Gitano), Moorish, Shepardic Jewish, and Andulasian roots. Although flamenco is rooted in tradition, regional variations do exist. Dancers may clap their hands, snap their fingers, shout out, play castanets or tambourines whilst performing an improvised dance drawing from traditional movements and individual creativity. The male (bailaor) dance is characterised by toe and heel stamping, while the female (bailaora) dance is based on the body and hand movements. The spirit of flamenco is the cante, or song. There are three types of flamenco songs: cante jondo (deep song), cante flamenco (intermediate song), and cante chico (light song). The cante jondo, believed to be the oldest form, follows the themes of death, anguish, despair, or religious doubt.

Modern flamenco, Nuevo flamenco, is taught across the world where individuals learn the basic skills of flamenco dancing, for enjoyment, recreation and fitness. El baille can help develop coordination, fitness, and tone and strengthen the core while having fun, listening to the beautiful music and learning to dance a flamenco. You may not reach el duende, but explore flamenco if you wish to improve your coordination and fitness levels to the charm of the flamenco guitar. To begin, you may choose professional training or online classes. However we do recommend you seek guidance from an experienced instructor before beginning the practice to reap full benefits of this emotional charged but graceful activity.

As an accompanist to the dancer, the singer (cantaor) recounts the legends and stories of daily life that reflect the experiences of an outcast subculture within predominately Christian Spain. The dancer is the interpreter of the song. The guitarist (tocoar) keeps the rhythm (compás) for the dancer’s individual rhythmic cadences.

Attaining el duende As an emotionally charged dance form, deeply musical dancers fall into a heightened state of emotion, expression and creativity known as duende. Duende is a translike state that transcends emotion. Duende is considered a gift that naturally emerges during a performance. It is the charisma of the artist that evokes an emotional state in not only the dancer but also in the audience. Gitano flamenco dancers regard the cante jondo as a form of prayer, so when in duende, the dancer is communicating with both God and the audience. Traditionally, it is believed that duende is only achieved by the very young or older flamenco dancers, i.e. those emotionally innocent and those who have a certain maturity. Embrace | 113

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Exercise to Reflect Take 5 minutes to think about your soul, identity and purpose. When ready, jot down some points for your personal journey. Are you happy with where you are? We all have the ability to grow. Complete this plan to help you grow your inner self.

What do I want to achieve?

How will I achieve these goals?

When do I want to achieve these goals?

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Embrace Life Wheel The Emrace Life Wheel encompasses nine aspects of life. To see how complete your life is across each of the nine aspects of the Embrace Life Wheel, the following questions and colour the wheel. If you feel that colouring is not for you, draw a dot or a line at the point you believe corresponds with how complete you feel in that aspect of your life.

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How complete is your Embrace Life Wheel? We have set out five questions for each of the nine aspects. You can do either of the following: Give yourself a yes/no response for each question. For each yes you have given, colour in the corresponding number of lines in that aspect. Give yourself a point for each question. Add the total points and draw a dot in the corresponding aspect indicating how complete you feel in that aspect. The Embrace Life Wheel is a positive tool to help you see where you can improve in each aspect of your life. Even if you scored yourself full and complete, there is always room to grow and improve. 116 | Embrace

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Bounce 1. I exercise for least 30 minutes each day. 2. I follow a well-balanced nutritional diet. 3. I drink alcohol responsibly. 4. I am the right weight for my height. 5. I am generally fit.

Care 1. I am happy with myself and my life. 2. I enjoy and appreciate my life. 3. I express my feelings clearly. 4. I can control my fear, anxiety or anger. 5. I enjoy laughing.

Learn 1. I am learning a new skill. 2. I pursue a mentally stimulating hobby. 3. I read a book regularly. 4. I am committed to life-long learning. 5. I commit time to professional and self-development.

Reflect 1. I regularly take time to reflect or meditate. 2. I have a sense of purpose in my life. 3. I recognise and renounce self-limiting thoughts. 4. I live by my ethical values and moral principles. 5. I listen to and trust my intuition

Sustain 1. I am aware of the recycling bin rules for my local area. 2. I reduce, reuse, and recycle. 3. I have a green space I can visit and feel replenished. 4. I use environmentally safe cleaners and sprays. 5. I take time to educate myself on environmental matters.

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Belong 1. I spend time developing my creative ability. 2. I have a hobby that allows me to be creative. 3. I regularly visit art galleries, museums or cultural venues. 4. I like learning about different cultures. 5. I am part of a community that shares creative ideas.

Grow 1. I have a good savings plan in place. 2. I repay my debts when or before they are due. 3. I have a diversified investment strategy in place. 4. I have a savings goal for my retirement. 5. I regularly donate to charity.

Work 1. I have a satisfying career or business. 2. I have a career plan or business goal. 3. I manage a good work/life balance. 4. I respect my colleagues and peers. 5. I know when to take a break and do so.

Connect 1. I have a great group of close friends. 2. I make time to meet or call friends and family. 3. I readily make new friends and acquaintances 4. I know when I need my space and alone time. 5. I can set my boundaries and respect the boundaries of others.

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About 10Ellen 10 Ellen Media is a privately owned, vibrant multi-media company that includes a portfolio of print and digital content. Based in Ipswich, Queensland, 10 Ellen Media reaches to national and international readers of all life stages. Our work reflects our values of living in total harmony with ourselves and those around us while indulging in pleasures every now and then. We inspire our readers to seize the little moments of joy while working, cooking, traveling, creating, and just being. Our creative teams collaborate with the readers and industry professionals to share their stories, creations, and beautiful ways of living and learning. The readers enjoy access to our work in their preferred channel that include print and digital articles, podcasts, social media groups, and video content. We welcome the experiences of our readers to create a community of likeminded people who share common interests and goals. Our portfolio includes print and digital content inspired by the simple pleasures of life, wellbeing, travel, food, creativity, and community-building.

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Embrace 2021 Issue 5

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Your Christmas Savings Plan

Food for Thought

A Small Hero - Tiny Homes